A MidWestern transgender woman trying to survive in the real life.

Category: politics

More Hellish than Being a US Navy Seal

In late 2022, Chris Beck, formerly known as Kristen Beck, made headlines when he announced that he was detransitioning. A former US Navy SEAL, Beck had undergone gender transition in the early 2010s, seeking to live as a woman after decades of internal struggle. His decision to detransition shocked many in the transgender community and beyond, raising questions about the complexities of gender identity and the emotional and psychological challenges that can accompany such profound personal decisions.

I don’t have any issue with those who decide to transition to either their original assigned gender or to a different gender role. As Valdes and MacKinnon (2023) point out, the process of transitioning is an intensely personal journey and should be respected as such. However, it is equally important to recognize and validate the experiences of those who decide to detransition. They, too, have the right to be heard and understood without judgment. Detransitioning is often met with skepticism and even hostility, especially in a society that sometimes views gender transition as a one-way path. But as Beck’s story reveals, gender identity is not always a linear progression, and the journey can be full of unexpected twists.

Chris Beck’s military career, including his time as a Navy SEAL, was intense and demanding. He faced physical and emotional challenges that tested his limits. Yet, Beck has stated that his experience with transitioning and later detransitioning was more difficult, more “hellish” than any mission he faced in combat. For Beck, the decision to transition was driven by a deep-seated sense of misalignment with his assigned gender. However, after transitioning, he began to realize that his struggles with identity went far beyond gender alone. As he explains, detransitioning wasn’t an easy choice—it was one born of a painful journey to truly understand himself.

For many detransitioners, there is a combination of external and internal factors that lead to the decision to return to their assigned gender. In Beck’s case, he has discussed feeling pressure to conform to the transgender community’s expectations of what it meant to be a woman. He described being caught between societal forces, medical professionals, and his own feelings of discomfort with how he was expected to look and behave. In a society that often demands conformity, the struggle to reconcile one’s true identity with external expectations can feel like an insurmountable task.

The emotional and psychological toll of detransitioning is profound. Beck has been candid about his struggle with depression and loneliness during this period. He is not alone in feeling this way—many who detransition face similar challenges, often feeling isolated both within the transgender community and the wider world. The decision to detransition is not made lightly; it often involves navigating a complex web of emotional, physical, and social consequences. As Valdes and MacKinnon (2023) suggest, it is crucial for society to take detransitioners seriously, acknowledging the pain they experience while also understanding that their stories are valid.

Despite the struggles that came with detransitioning, Beck emphasizes that his decision was one of self-discovery. He is not rejecting the trans community or invalidating the experiences of others who transition. Rather, he is seeking to align himself with a sense of identity that feels truer to who he is. The narrative of detransitioning is one that is too often ignored or silenced, but it is important to listen with compassion and open-mindedness to those who find themselves on this path.

The journey of gender identity is never simple, and it is crucial to acknowledge that for some, the decision to transition or detransition can be fraught with confusion, pain, and even regret. As we continue to evolve our understanding of gender, it is essential that we honor and support all people—whether they transition, detransition, or remain in the gender they were assigned at birth. As Beck’s story shows, the process of finding oneself can take many forms, and the road is not always straightforward.

The personal story of Chris Beck’s detransition serves as a powerful reminder that the journey of gender identity is deeply individual. For some, it may be more hellish than being a Navy SEAL, but it is a journey that deserves respect and understanding. Just as those who transition are valid, so too are those who decide to detransition. As a society, we must strive to provide space for all voices in the gender discourse, without judgment or dismissal, but with empathy and support.

 

References

Valdes, D., & MacKinnon, K. (2023, January 18). Take Detransitioners Seriously. The Atlantic. https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2023/01/detransition-transgender-nonbinary-gender-affirming-care/672745/

What Project 2025 Could Mean for Me

Thinking about the future can feel overwhelming these days, especially as an openly transgender woman preparing to teach high school students. Project 2025—a policy plan from conservative think tanks, including the Heritage Foundation—aims to reshape the federal government in ways that could drastically impact education, public policies, and protections for LGBTQ+ individuals. As someone who plans to teach in public schools and who cares deeply about creating safe, inclusive spaces, I can’t help but reflect on what this project might mean for me and for others like me.

At its core, Project 2025 is a conservative “wish list” designed to realign the federal government with what its authors call “traditional” values. Its goals include reducing regulations, diminishing protections for LGBTQ+ individuals, and limiting certain topics in education. By targeting social policies that they see as overly progressive, the project seeks to roll back recent advancements in LGBTQ+ rights, particularly in areas like healthcare, workplace protections, and public education. The impact of these changes, however, wouldn’t stop at the federal level—they would likely encourage similar initiatives at state and local levels, leading to an even more divided and polarized society. If Project 2025 were to come to fruition, it could make life harder and less safe for transgender individuals, impacting not only my personal life but my professional future as an educator.

One of my greatest concerns is how this project could affect transgender people’s access to healthcare. Under the Affordable Care Act (ACA), protections were established to ensure that transgender individuals could not be discriminated against in accessing healthcare. However, Project 2025 proposes a major reduction of federal involvement in healthcare, which could make it easier to limit or outright remove these protections. During the Trump administration, attempts were made to roll back these same ACA protections for transgender people, and it’s likely that Project 2025 would pursue similar changes. For transgender people like me, these protections are more than just legal victories—they are crucial for accessing gender-affirming care and basic healthcare without fear of discrimination or refusal of service. Removing them would deepen an already significant barrier, complicating and threatening our ability to receive compassionate care.

Job protections are another concern. In 2020, the Supreme Court ruled that employment discrimination based on gender identity was prohibited under Title VII of the Civil Rights Act. This decision was a hard-won victory for LGBTQ+ rights, but Project 2025’s agenda could challenge its enforcement. The plan could weaken the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission’s (EEOC) stance on these protections, creating a situation where LGBTQ+ employees face higher risks of discrimination with fewer resources to turn to. As a transgender woman who is preparing to work in a public high school, the idea that I might lose protections from workplace discrimination or harassment is deeply concerning. Working without a sense of job security or safety because of who I am isn’t just intimidating—it’s destabilizing.

Public visibility and safety for transgender people could also be under threat if Project 2025 becomes reality. Already, certain states are pushing policies that restrict transgender rights, such as banning gender-affirming healthcare for minors, limiting restroom access, and curtailing the use of preferred names and pronouns in schools. Project 2025 could make such state-level restrictions more widespread, creating an increasingly hostile environment for transgender people across the country. The everyday hostility transgender people navigate could become an even greater burden under a government that actively endorses policies to restrict our rights and visibility in public spaces.

In my role as a future teacher, I’m particularly worried about how Project 2025’s education policies could impact schools. In its emphasis on restoring “traditional” values, the project targets what it sees as overly progressive curricula. For many educators, especially LGBTQ+ teachers, this could mean a dramatic shift in what we’re able to say, teach, or discuss with our students. Conservative educational policies have already placed restrictions on discussing topics of gender identity and sexual orientation, and Project 2025 could take this further, curbing the very conversations that help foster empathy and understanding in diverse classrooms. For an openly transgender teacher, this kind of restrictive environment could mean walking a tightrope, avoiding essential discussions on identity and inclusion to avoid professional risk or penalties.

Beyond content restrictions, Project 2025 could also impact teachers’ freedom to express support for LGBTQ+ rights openly. Some recent state-level policies prevent teachers from using a student’s chosen name or pronouns, even if doing so would support a student’s mental health and identity. If a Project 2025-influenced administration encourages such restrictions at the federal level, it would push teachers into a troubling situation. We could face the choice of following rigid policies or being there for our students in ways we know are vital to their well-being. I can imagine the conflict that might arise from trying to be an inclusive, compassionate teacher while navigating policies that could treat such support as unprofessional or even punishable.

A government agenda like Project 2025 could also leave transgender teachers professionally vulnerable. If this project’s policies limit support for LGBTQ+ rights in public education, teachers who openly identify as transgender or who vocally support LGBTQ+ students may find themselves targeted, scrutinized, or penalized. This kind of professional risk could discourage talented, caring teachers from entering or remaining in the field, ultimately harming students who benefit from seeing themselves represented among the adults who guide them.

Despite all the anxieties and uncertainties, Project 2025’s rise has also reminded me of the power of community and resilience. People from all walks of life support diversity and inclusion, and we’re not alone in standing up for an education system that welcomes everyone. There are many of us who are ready to push back against policies that seek to diminish our visibility and rights, and we’re prepared to continue advocating for inclusive schools. The possibility of Project 2025 becoming reality doesn’t just challenge us—it motivates us to strengthen our support networks, raise our voices, and remind others that the values of inclusion and respect are worth fighting for.

While Project 2025 looms as a potentially drastic shift in the government’s approach to transgender rights and public education, I still find hope. Across the country, students, parents, allies, and educators believe in the importance of diversity and inclusion, and together, we can push back against policies that fail to protect our rights. As a future teacher, I am committed to fostering a classroom where all my students feel seen, heard, and valued. Despite the challenges that may come, I am confident that with resilience and community, we can hold on to the progress we’ve made—and keep pushing forward for even more.

I Am a Transfeminist

I am a transfeminist, because transgender women are women.

I have viewed myself as a girl at a very early age. I was told that I am wrong that I was born a boy. I had to hide who I was. I believed the stories that were told to me that if I did accept that I was a women society would never accept me. I would be viewed as a freak and not be able to find a job.

In my early 20s I came out as bisexual, but soon after came out as a gay man. I rejected calling myself gay because I believed that meant I hated women. I learned this was not true when I befriended some gay men.

Coming out as a gay man did not help with my depression. There was suicide attempts and a self loathing. I knew something had to be done and I finally made the very hard decision to not only come out as a straight transgender woman but to begin the process of transitioning. It was the most difficult decision I ever made in my life but also the most rewarding.

As a transwoman, I have a unique perspective on society’s gender policing: girls do this and boys do that. I didn’t want for society to see me as a boy. I wanted society to see me as a girl. It was – and still is – to get society to use the correct pronouns when talking to me. I experience emotional violence and disrespect when some view me as the correct gender but eventually learn that I’m a transgender woman and they believe I am trying to fool them.

I am a transfeminist because I don’t want to see other women like me go through the same struggles that I have gone through.

The Gender Pay Gap

Jaclyn Glenn

I have a confession to make. I’m an atheist. I consider myself to be an agnostic atheist. I grew up Catholic, but started to lose my faith in my early twenties. I started to become more of a rational person then a person that lives a life based on faith.

I follow some YouTubers that defend atheism. Most of them I don’t care for since they seem to be anti-theists rather than atheists. One person that I do like to follow is Jaclyn Glenn. I don’t agree with everything that she says, but the majority of the time I listen to her I find my thoughts to be the same as her thoughts. One thing I disagree with her is on feminism.

A few weeks ago a video posted by FCKH8 went viral. It features girls informing viewers about feminist points. They give there point across by using the word “fuck”.

Jaclyn Gleen appeared on the podcast Drunken Peasants, which is also posted on YouTube. I personally don’t like to follow the Drunken Peasants; they just annoy me. Yet, I wanted to hear what Jaclyn had to say about feminism. Yet, again I disagreed with her.

The FCKH8 claimed that women are paid 23% less than men. Jaclyn then said:

I get so frustrated whenever I hear this because it is kind of dishonest. I mean if you look at the numbers … you’re not factoring in job choice and hours worked and women, for example, taking maternity leave and stuff like that. If you take all of that out there is still inequality which is bullshit and should be addressed. But, whenever you start adding numbers making it seem more of an issue than it is just kind of bothers me because it is not honest. It is definitely not 20% or 25%, I heard both, it is more like five.

Let’s take this apart and see how honest Jaclyn is with this statement. I will be taking the December 2013 Pew Research Center report titled On Pay Gap, Millennial Women Near Parity – For Now. I’m using the Pew Research since they are a nonpartisan think tank, so there will not be any liberal or conservative bias in their study. It is also the most current information I could find.

I want to take her last statement and figure out where she got the number that women earn 95% of what men earn. The actual inequality according to the December 2013 report is 84%, meaning that women are earning 16% less than what men make. The White House released information saying that women make 77% of what men make, which comes from comparing differences in annual  earnings rather than weekly earnings like the Pew Research Center report. This is where the FCH8 gets there information that the women are paid 23% less than man.

Where did Jaclyn come up with the 5% figure? It comes from Christina Hoff Sommers who says that it is at 5-7% when factors are “adjusted”. She claims that this came from the a 2009 Department of Labor study. I could find no such report. I did find a blog post titled “Myth Busting the Pay Gap” which supports both the 77% or 88% depending on how data is examined. So, the 5% figure is just made up and is dishonest.

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