Category: reflection

Memorial Day Is Not Veterans Day

On May 25, 2026

Rows of headstones marked with American flags stretch across a military cemetery at sunset as a lone service member salutes in remembrance of the fallen men and women who gave their lives in service to the United States. (Image generated by ChatGPT using DALL·E, 2026.)

Every year on Memorial Day, people thank veterans for their service.

I understand why. Most people mean well. They want to show respect to those who wore the uniform, and I appreciate that sentiment. But Memorial Day was never intended to be a celebration of living veterans. That is what Veterans Day is for.

Memorial Day is something different.

It is a day set aside to remember the men and women who never came home.

As a veteran myself, that distinction matters deeply to me. I served in the United States Navy during the era of Operation Desert Storm aboard the USS Minneapolis-Saint Paul. I came home. I was able to continue my life, build a future, struggle, grow, love, fail, succeed, and simply continue existing. The people Memorial Day honors were denied that opportunity.

That is the sacrifice we are meant to remember.

Memorial Day is not about performative patriotism or turning military service into an abstraction. It is not about glorifying war. It is certainly not about reducing remembrance to sales events, social media slogans, or a long holiday weekend without reflection. It is about human beings whose lives ended in service to their country.

Behind every name engraved on a memorial wall was a real person. Someone who had favorite songs, inside jokes, dreams for the future, people they loved, and people who loved them. Some were barely adults. Some left behind spouses and children. Some never had the chance to become who they might have been.

When we lose sight of that humanity, Memorial Day becomes hollow.

I think one reason this misunderstanding happens so often is because American culture tends to merge all military remembrance together into one broad category of “supporting the troops.” But Memorial Day carries a solemn purpose. It is closer in spirit to a funeral than a celebration.

For veterans, especially, this day can carry complicated emotions. Many of us knew people who did not make it home. Others think about how easily circumstances could have been different. Military service creates an understanding of mortality that often stays with a person forever. Memorial Day brings those thoughts closer to the surface.

It should.

We should feel the weight of it.

That does not mean people cannot gather with family or enjoy the day. Life continuing is part of what those who died were protecting. But somewhere amid the cookouts, gatherings, and long weekend traditions, there should also be a moment of silence and honest remembrance.

A moment to think about the cost of war.

A moment to think about the young lives lost across generations.

A moment to remember that freedom is not an abstract phrase. For many families, it came with unbearable personal loss.

I also believe Memorial Day should challenge us to think more carefully about how casually nations sometimes enter conflicts. Honoring the dead should include respecting the gravity of sending human beings into war in the first place. Remembering sacrifice means understanding that these losses were not symbols. They were people.

Today, I am not asking anyone to thank me for my service.

Instead, I ask people to remember those who gave everything and never had the chance to come home.

That is what Memorial Day is for.

Identity, Biology, and the End of “MTF”

By Katherine Walter

On March 3, 2026

In reflection

Language has always felt personal to me, especially when it comes to how I describe my own life. Words like “transgender woman,” “transgender female,” and “MTF” are often treated as interchangeable, but they do not feel interchangeable from the inside. Each one carries a slightly different emphasis, and over time I have become more intentional about which I use and why.

I call myself a transgender woman because that is the role I occupy in society. It reflects how I move through the world, how I am perceived, and how I understand my place in social space. The word woman matters to me. It names my gender, not my medical history. “Transgender” simply describes the path I took to live authentically. When I say I am a transgender woman, I am asserting that I am a woman—fully—and that my past does not disqualify me from that category.

At the same time, I recognize that “transgender female” can be an accurate description of my embodied reality. I rarely use it, because it sounds clinical. It feels like language pulled from a medical chart rather than from lived experience. Still, accuracy matters to me. My hormone levels are typical of a cisgender female. I do not produce testosterone. I no longer have testicles. While I do not have a vagina, my endocrine profile and much of my physiology align with female norms. In a biological sense, something real and measurable has shifted. My transition was not only social; it was physiological.

That is why I no longer relate to the term “MTF,” or male-to-female. It suggests movement. It suggests that I am in transit, or that I carry maleness forward into the present as an active descriptor. I do not experience myself that way. “Male” was an assignment imposed on me at birth, not an identity I inhabited in any meaningful sense. My transition is not an ongoing crossing from one category into another. It was a process with a direction, yes—but it is not my current state of being. I do not feel like I am male-to-female. I feel like I am female, and socially, a woman.

For me, the distinction between gender and sex is not abstract. “Woman” describes my gender role, my social identity, and my place in cultural structures. “Female” describes aspects of my body as it exists now, after years of medical transition. I rarely lead with the latter because I do not want to reduce myself to anatomy or hormone panels. I am not a medical case study. I am a person. Still, I will not deny that my biology has changed in profound ways. To pretend otherwise would feel dishonest.

What matters most is that I am not in a perpetual state of becoming. I am not suspended between categories. I have lived in this body, in this identity, for years. My transition feels complete to me. The language I choose reflects that sense of arrival.

So I call myself a transgender woman because it captures my lived reality in society. I acknowledge that “transgender female” can describe my physiology, even if I rarely use it in everyday conversation. And I leave “MTF” in the past, where it belongs—as a description of a journey that has already reached its destination.

The Legacy I Hope to Leave Behind

By Katherine Walter

On July 1, 2025

In reflection

Image: ChatGPT

Legacy is not built all at once. It takes shape over time—quietly, unevenly—through the choices we make, the truths we speak, and the lives we touch. I don’t imagine mine will be written in bold headlines or etched into stone. But I hope it will be felt in subtler, more enduring ways. In the freedom someone claims because I once stood up. In the insight sparked by something I taught or wrote. In the love that lingers in the spaces I leave behind.

I’ve lived many chapters in this life—some of them linear, others far more tangled. I began as a student of anthropology, drawn to the study of culture, meaning, and human complexity. It taught me to listen deeply, to question what seems natural, and to honor what is often ignored or devalued. Anthropology gave me not just tools for understanding others—it gave me a way to understand myself. As a transgender woman, as a spiritual seeker, as someone shaped by forces both seen and hidden, I learned to situate my life within broader currents of history and identity. That perspective never left me.

Eventually, I put my education into service in a different way—as a SNAP program specialist with the USDA. There, I saw how policy lives not in abstract theories but in the faces of people trying to feed their families. I worked at the intersection of administration and survival. It gave me a profound respect for the dignity of everyday life, and a deepened sense of duty to advocate for those so often silenced by red tape and economic cruelty. That role grounded me in the real: in food, in need, in systems and the people caught within them.

But even before all of that, I served my country in uniform. I am a U.S. Navy veteran. I served as a submariner and fought in Desert Storm. It was a life of discipline, of structure, of submerged tension—both literal and emotional. That chapter gave me a close relationship with mortality, with silence, with sacrifice. And later, it gave me the courage to live my truth. Because once you’ve survived war, you learn how little time there really is for pretending.

Though my time teaching in a classroom was brief, it was profoundly meaningful. Education, I believe, is one of the most radical forms of love and hope. I did not stay long enough to become a fixture, but I hope I was a spark. I hope that somewhere, a student remembers me not as perfect, but as present. As someone who saw them clearly, challenged them to think differently, and held space for who they were becoming.

Throughout it all, I’ve remained a writer, a creator, a witness. I write not just to tell stories, but to make space—for desire, for defiance, for complex and beautiful lives that rarely make it into the mainstream. I write for those on the margins, for the ones building new worlds from the ruins of the old, and for the future selves who need proof that we were here.

If I am remembered, I hope it is as someone who lived with fierce honesty. Who loved without shame. Who fought for justice, even when she was exhausted. Who stood in her womanhood and her queerness not as burdens, but as blessings.

I hope my legacy is not one of perfection, but of permission. Permission to live. To change. To desire. To dream beyond the roles assigned at birth or by circumstance. I hope I leave behind courage in those who need it. Gentleness in those taught to harden. Fire in those told to shrink.

And if some future soul—browsing an archive, reading a quote, hearing a story—finds a piece of me and thinks, “Because she lived, I feel less alone,” then that is all the immortality I will ever need.