Tag: sex-positive feminism

Transgender Pornography Is Performance, Not Representation

A stylized editorial composition pairs bold typography with filmmaking imagery, including a director’s chair under studio lights, to emphasize the essay’s central argument that transgender pornography is a staged form of entertainment rather than a representation of transgender lives. The image underscores the distinction between commercial fantasy and lived experience while affirming that supporting transgender pornography is compatible with recognizing its representational limitations. (Image generated by ChatGPT using DALL·E, 2026.)

Whenever people discuss transgender pornography, I think it’s important to begin with an honest admission: I support transgender pornography. I don’t believe there is anything inherently wrong with consenting adults creating or consuming adult content. Sex work is work, performers deserve respect, and transgender performers deserve the same autonomy over their bodies and careers as anyone else.

At the same time, I think we need to be honest about what transgender pornography is—and what it isn’t.

Pornography is entertainment. It is staged. It is directed. It is edited. It is created to satisfy an audience. It has never been an accurate representation of how people actually live, love, or experience their sexuality.

Transgender pornography is no different.

For decades, the largest commercial market for transgender pornography has been cisgender men. Like every successful entertainment industry, producers have responded to the desires of their customers. The stories, camera work, performers, marketing, and even the terminology used have largely been shaped by what sells to that audience.

That doesn’t make transgender pornography bad.

It simply means we shouldn’t mistake it for a documentary about transgender lives.

As a transgender woman myself, I often find that mainstream transgender pornography doesn’t speak to me. That’s not because I object to pornography—quite the opposite. It’s because so much of it is produced through the lens of what cisgender men find appealing rather than what transgender women themselves might find authentic, relatable, or emotionally engaging.

I would love to see more transgender pornography created by transgender people, for transgender audiences, or at least with our perspectives in mind. Stories that reflect our relationships, our intimacy, our humor, our vulnerability, and the many different ways we experience attraction and desire.

Instead, much of the industry revolves around familiar commercial formulas. Performers become fantasy figures rather than complete people. The focus is on creating a particular erotic experience for the viewer, not portraying the diversity of transgender lives.

Again, that isn’t unique to transgender pornography.

Mainstream heterosexual pornography is not an accurate depiction of heterosexual relationships. Lesbian pornography produced for straight men often bears little resemblance to the lived experiences of many lesbians. Gay pornography is designed to entertain its audience, not to document everyday gay life. Every genre emphasizes fantasy over realism.

Transgender pornography follows the same commercial model.

The problem arises when people have little or no real-life interaction with transgender people and pornography becomes their primary source of information. They begin to assume that what they see on screen reflects how transgender women generally look, behave, think, or approach relationships.

It doesn’t.

Porn performers are actors. Scenes are planned. Directors make creative choices. Editing removes awkward moments. Bodies are selected because they fit a particular aesthetic. The finished product is designed to arouse viewers—not to educate them about transgender people.

That’s why it’s important to separate fantasy from reality.

Transgender women are as varied as any other group of people. We are professionals, students, artists, parents, veterans, athletes, scientists, retail workers, and everything in between. Some of us enjoy making pornography. Most of us do not. Our identities cannot be reduced to a category on an adult website.

Supporting transgender pornography and recognizing its limitations are not contradictory positions.

I can appreciate adult entertainment while also acknowledging that it is a commercial product built around audience demand. I can celebrate the performers while recognizing that the industry’s priorities do not necessarily reflect the experiences of transgender women as a whole.

Pornography is performance.

The sooner people understand that, the easier it becomes to appreciate it for what it is—fantasy created for entertainment—without confusing it for a realistic portrait of an entire community.

Unapologetically Sexual

I was let go from my student teaching position because of some tweets. In these posts, I said, among other things, “I like to suck dick.” It wasn’t part of a curriculum. It wasn’t aimed at students. It was a personal expression—raw, queer, unapologetic. And for that, I was deemed “unfit.”

But I am not ashamed. Because when I say something as simple and carnal as “I like to suck dick,” I’m not being obscene—I’m declaring war on the suffocating norms that define who gets to express desire and how.

Let’s be clear: this isn’t just about sex. It’s about power.

The phrase “I like sex” is broadly acceptable when said by a cis, straight man. Even when women say it, it must be delivered with just the right balance of flirtation and modesty, wrapped in acceptable femininity. But when a transgender woman like me speaks directly and honestly about her sexuality—without euphemism, without apology—it’s treated as taboo. It becomes scandalous, political, dangerous.

And that’s exactly why I say it.

Heteronormativity doesn’t just regulate bodies—it polices desire. It dictates what kind of sex is real, what kind of sex is dirty, and which voices are allowed to claim desire at all. Trans women are often reduced to caricatures: hypersexual porn tropes or sexless tokens of pity. To say, plainly and proudly, that I love sucking dick is to reject all of that. It’s to assert my autonomy, my pleasure, and my humanity.

Yes, I am a transgender woman. Yes, I am sexual. And yes, I will speak about it.

My words weren’t unprofessional. They were inconvenient—to a system that still finds trans joy threatening and trans pleasure unspeakable. I lost a role in education for telling the truth about myself. But I gained something else: clarity. I know now that empowerment doesn’t come from fitting in. It comes from taking up space. From naming what you’re told to hide. From loving your body and your voice enough to say what they told you you shouldn’t even feel.

So I will continue to speak freely. Not because I want to provoke—but because I refuse to be erased. I want other trans women to know that they can be intelligent, nurturing, sexual, kinky, loud, soft, and bold—all at once. I want us all to know that our worth doesn’t shrink because someone else is uncomfortable with our truths.

When I say “I like to suck dick,” I’m not just being honest.

I’m being powerful.

And in a world built to silence women like me, that is revolutionary.

Why Teaching Requires More Than Pedagogy

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As someone who holds a Master’s degree in Anthropology, I entered the world of education with both passion and purpose. While my primary focus was cultural anthropology, I—like every graduate in the discipline—was trained in all four subfields: cultural, linguistic, archaeological, and biological anthropology. That meant I not only studied cultures and societies, but also the scientific method, human evolution, genetics, and the biological roots of human behavior. I came to education with a deep respect for science and evidence-based learning.

This is why, during an assignment as a substitute teacher in a high school science class in Illinois, I was shocked when the regular teacher told me—without hesitation—that “scientific theories are not factual.” He dismissed evolution as “make believe,” clearly unaware that a scientific theory is one of the highest forms of scientific understanding—built upon repeated observation, experimentation, and peer review. Evolution is the cornerstone of modern biology, not a matter of personal belief.

This isn’t a harmless slip-up. This is a fundamental failure in teacher preparation. It’s not enough to teach students how to learn if we’re giving them incorrect or ideologically distorted content. I’ve read critiques arguing that college should be limited to learning within one’s major, and that students should have mastered foundational knowledge in high school. The reality is, many high school students aren’t mastering those foundations—because their teachers are not adequately prepared to teach them.

Too many teacher preparation programs emphasize methods over mastery. Aspiring educators are trained extensively in classroom management, differentiated instruction, and educational theory—yet not always required to have a deep command of the subjects they will teach. In some cases, they’re licensed to teach science with little more than a generalist background.

And the problem doesn’t end with science.

I was working toward my teaching license through a Master of Arts in Teaching (MAT) program when I encountered another systemic problem—this time around sex education. I have a sex-positive stance, one rooted in both personal conviction and research-based evidence. In one health class I observed, students were assigned to budget for the costs of raising a newborn. It was clear the goal was to instill fear—to use financial anxiety as a scare tactic to promote abstinence. But studies have consistently shown that abstinence-only education not only fails to prevent teen pregnancy and STIs but can also be psychologically harmful, particularly to students who do become young parents.

Sexual health education should be empowering and factual, not shame-driven. But when I expressed my concerns, I encountered resistance—not just from individual educators, but from the institution itself.

Things came to a head when a student created a video montage of several posts from my account on X (formerly Twitter). These were not instructional posts. They were personal, blunt statements about my sexual desires—an expression of my identity as a sex-positive transgender woman and my belief that it is okay to have sexual feelings as a man or trans woman who is attracted to men. These posts were part of my advocacy: normalizing desire, refusing shame, and affirming the validity of trans and queer sexuality.

The school’s administration didn’t see it that way. Despite my academic progress and professional goals, my student teaching was terminated by the principal and HR. The university I was attending stated that they supported me—but they offered no legal or practical assistance in dealing with the district. Ultimately, I was left to fend for myself, and I made the painful decision to withdraw from the MAT program.

This experience left me disillusioned but not without resolve. It exposed not only the institutional discomfort with sex positivity and LGBTQ+ inclusion, but also a broader systemic issue: we are not preparing teachers who are content experts, nor are we protecting those who challenge outdated or harmful norms. We are failing both our educators and our students.

This is why I firmly believe that the time has come to rethink our entire approach to public education. In today’s complex and fast-paced world, a high school diploma is no longer sufficient preparation for the workforce—or for responsible citizenship. I believe a community college education should become the new baseline, just as a high school diploma was once considered the minimum requirement. Community colleges offer an affordable, accessible means of deepening one’s understanding of science, mathematics, communication, and civic literacy. They can provide a critical bridge to more specialized training and help ensure that our future educators, health workers, and citizens are equipped with both knowledge and critical thinking skills.

We need teachers who understand evolution, who can explain the scientific method, who are prepared to address the realities of human sexuality without resorting to fear or shame. We need school districts that protect educators from ideological purges, and universities that do more than offer symbolic support when their students face political or cultural backlash.

I may have been pushed out of the MAT program, but I have not given up on education. I still believe deeply in the power of teaching—and in the need for radical reform in how we prepare those who take on that responsibility.

Our students deserve teachers who are not only caring and skilled, but who actually know what they’re talking about. Anything less is a betrayal of their potential.

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